Dating and how slow is slow is jeannie berlin dating bud cort
If however, you find her interesting, then do less small talk and explore the interesting subjects in more depth. Pick something interesting she said, and start a conversation about it.
So, to answer your question: write less often (not more). This will increase the interesting discussions versus small talk ratio. Do not ask about what she ate, but if she cooked the recipe she learned from her grandma, then ask her all about the grandma.
Smalltalk does not fulfill your goal of getting to know each other.
So, review your conversations and try to assess the proportion of small talk versus actual content (like: talking about past life experiences, philosophy, travels, dreams, life goals, tastes, etc). When re-reading your conversations, if you are bored into oblivion, then let's be honest, this doesn't look like it'll end up in a satisfying long-term relationship...
Something no-one mentioned is that she might be very introverted.
Handling introverted people is a subject in and of itself, but I'll just say that they have a set amount of energy per day and interactions with people consume that energy at a rate that depends on the stakes, potential for conflict, number of people around, etc.
If she says "no, she will stay home and read a book", then the next day you can ask her if she enjoyed it (good point for you! ) and you can talk about the movie you watched or whatever you did.
Also, you ask her what she's doing, which makes you sound controlling, which you go on to kinda confirm: This comes off as: you decided for her that she should spend time with you rather than reading her book. I'm not surprised by her reaction, as I immediately ditch anyone who displays a tendency to think they're entitled to make decisions for me.
There are much better ways to say the exact same thing, even this old, very simple one: "I'm going to watch [movie title], would you like to join?
I really am not into just having sex, because (we talked about it) we both are looking for a long term relationship so I have no problem with patience, but it's going too slow, and she somehow does not want to meet more often than ~once a week and you cannot build a connection when you spend no time with each other.
How could I communicate to this person that I really like her but that I am starting to lose interest because of the insanely slow pace of the relationship?