Impatience and frustration commonly occur once you immerse yourself in dating — and finding love does not happen as quickly as it has for others. Going on a great set of dates may offer hope and comfort that shatters when the relationship ends.Messaging someone new and planning to meet may offer excitement that dissipates if you are stood up.When dating isn’t going well or you are dealing with rejection, you can commit to taking a break instead of impulsively deactivating your profile, sending a rude text or email, or giving up on love forever.It is important to remember that when you are in an overwhelming emotional state after an awful date, breakup, etc., it can be challenging to see the big picture.It can be difficult to grasp what it takes to find a partner because there is such a wide spectrum of the when, where, and how, especially if you believe love comes easy for others.Instead you can accept that love happens in different ways, in different speeds, and at different times.
The reality is that there is no substitute for face-to-face interaction.
It is a virtual buffet of possibilities and with so many choices it is tiring, overwhelming, and elicits the fear that we might miss out on Mr. Justin Long, a Vancouver based computer researcher and developer, founded Bernie A. believing that technology got us in this mess and it can get us out. The app is named after Long's dear friend Bernie, who kept pushing him to venture out into the dating world, and it was because of Bernie's encouragement, Justin found his first long-term girlfriend. If using Bernie as an online wingman can get singles out from behind the screen sooner, overcome dating fatigue, return them to the human experience of dating and bring the one person to their inbox who is genuinely interested; he might just become the first techie super hero. I suppose time and technology will tell us--literally.
Bernie is a personal assistant Long designed to "become an extension of you, to handle the time consuming part of online dating." It all started in a bar when he got tired of watching his friends swiping away the evening with faces buried in their phones. Bernie passed away not long after, and in a strange twist of irony, the cause of his death was an enlarged heart.
The way you characterize dating comes from you as you are in charge of the energy you put into the world and the choices you make for yourself. So, when your mind tries to convince you to give up or settle for someone less than ideal, remember that the real thing is worth fighting for.
When faced with difficult experiences and emotions, remember to stay present and focused on your goals.
It is healthy to find ways to stay motivated to date, but you may also experience more hopelessness, anger or impatience if your personal deadlines pass without success.