Good openers for online dating
I don't have any "proven" first messages, but one of my friends is successful and he just writes, "hey" or "sup" in his first message. I'm black and the majority of the women on each site weren't. However, if you're doing mass messaging like I do then you simply can't take the time do break down each girl's profile unless you want to make an afternoon out of it.It's the second message that he uses to really get them interested. One that ALWAYS ensured a reply back was "I hope you aren't racist". I guess they always replied so that they could validate themselves somewhat so that they don't feel guilty or racist if they didn't reply. The line I've been using to message chicks is: "Hey I checked out your profile and you seem cool. " By saying I checked out their profile it implies that I did actually check them out which I didn't, I just look at their pictures.The reason I advocate my original line is that it is more complex than just simply saying "Hey" or "What's up", but it's not too outrageous that it will turn a girl off. Maybe there's a way to get the to respond to a first message, but I think they have a lot of anxiety about in general.I just try to get their attention in the first message instead of writing a long winded specific message about something in their profile. You checked me out and didn't say hi" It has a very high return response rate.D&P writes about it here: As for the first girl, the convo ended prematurely, but I have a date Friday with the second girl.Some respond well to cocky, edgy openers some see right through that and call you out. Drone- this is the hardest for me because these girls want to keep everything boring and their profiles give you nothing to work with.Ultimately 90% of it comes down to what you look like. Just cuts the bullshit since all that matters most the time is your look. I'm black and the majority of the women on each site weren't. I try to pick out one incongruent detail and hope that she will emerge from her shell.
Here it is: Now, when a girl visits your profile before you check theirs out I always send: "Hey!If you want to start a conversation, your Tinder icebreaker needs to intrigue her.It should make her feel something because an emotional connection fuels both attraction and trust — both of which are crucial for her to say yes to a date. Just gets things going in a more interesting way than "hey". I message girls that are clearly DTF by their answers but don't just go in there saying "yo piece of shit whore let me anal you" as they probably get that 10x a day. I actually read their profile and respond to something I find interesting about it.